Condom phobia
I am 22-year-old woman and I got married recently to a 28-year-old man. Since we don’t want child for the first year, my husband wears a condom during sex.
However, every time he wears a condom, I get terribly scared thinking that if the condom slips off during sex, it can get lost in my vagina, causing serious complications. Kindly clarify.
If a condom does come off when a couple has sexual intercourse and slips into the vagina, the woman can easily reach into her vagina with her fingers and pull it out. It does not enter the uterus or the body. The vagina is almost like a blind pouch with a very narrow collapsed passage into the uterus which cannot allow the condom to go beyond that point. Moreover, a condom is too large an object to get lost into the vagina.
Stop feeling scared; and relax into your sexual relationship with your husband.
Good relation vs good sex
I am 27. For me a good relationship is important but I also feel that the relationship must have a really good sexual component. Sex is very important to me and I also want a good relationship. I have been in two relationships till now. In the first, there was very good understanding, friendship and warmth but sex was low. In the second relationship, sex was very strong but romance was so-so. I am confused. Kindly guide me!
For healthy couples, sex is a natural extension of a good intimate emotional relationship, so if you want a good sexual relationship, it needs to be embedded in a good overall relationship. Remember, sex is not the foundation of a healthy relationship, but it is a natural extension of a relationship in which giving and receiving mutual support and comfort are common.
Now what you have to see is whether the relationship is a mature and responsible one. Infatuations rarely turn into mutually fulfilling relationships. For any long term relationship to be successful, it must be based on a mature understanding of each other and a committed responsibility towards the relationship. Check out and see which one of the two fits the bill.
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