Don’t rush into life head first after a bad break up! Khevna Pandit tells you about a few things you should do if you’re recovering from heartache
Getting your heart broken is one of the most devastating feelings in the world. If your partner was also your best friend, the thought of having no one to run to makes it even worse. But, even if you do have friends to turn to, it’s hard to find people who understand exactly what you’re going through. And, whenever it seems like it’s getting too tough to face a new day, remember that there’s a light at the end of every tunnel. So, before you decide to plunge head first into your routine again, here are a few things you should change about your routine when trying to get over heartache.
Don’t contact your ex
Perhaps the most crucial rule of breaking up is to act as if your relationship is over for good. Maintain your distance (and yes, that means on social media as well) and if push comes to shove, delete their number. While this doesn’t have to be a permanent change, it is fair to create a barrier when you’re at your most vulnerable. Sever all ties with them if that’s what it’s going to take for you to begin to heal.
Don’t be ashamed to let your emotions out! Cry, sob and rant for as long as it takes for you to feel better. Letting your emotions out is the best way for your brain to deal with any sort of upheavals. Bottling up your emotions will only lead to unhealthy outbursts later. Use this chance to honour your feelings and move past them gracefully. And, you don’t always need an ear from someone. Write down your deepest thoughts or talk out loud to give yourself some clarity.
Give your room a makeover
Get brand new sheets and curtains to revamp your personal space after a breakup. It will help you revamp your room and also renew your bedroom’s chi, which will eventually help you to feel better. Also, remember to get rid of anything that reminds you of your ex, because you don’t want to feel like cuddling on a lazy Sunday morning after seeing a stray shirt lying in your closet.
Go on holiday
What is a fun new destination you’ve always wanted to travel to? Get your bags packed and go out of town, because there’s no better time to do so! Whether you travel with a friend or on your own, there is something therapeutic about taking a break, which can help you embrace your newfound freedom. Get away for a week or two, and don’t forget to switch your phone off while you’re at it
Create your own breakup playlist
This may sound like a teenage cliché, but we’re very serious about it. Imagine scrolling through a playlist when ‘your’ song comes on. Do you want to end up sobbing on the train ride back home? Save yourself from unwelcome memories and incessant reminiscing by putting on a playlist with songs that could lift your spirits instead. And, if you want to remind yourself not to fall back into old patterns, try listening to songs by the queen of breakup — Taylor Swift — depending on your personal taste, of course.
Do a social detox
We mean letting go of all sorts of social communication for a while and spending some time by yourself. Don’t rush into partying or spending all your time outdoors just because you’ve had a rough time. You don’t want to end up in a rebound relationship or a painful fling, do you? Give yourself the time and space to figure things out and make peace with yourself before you take a step forward to socialising and forming new bonds again.